A sister is both your mirror and your opposite.Elizabeth Fishel
HAPPY NEW YEAR! I pray your celebrations were nothing short of excellent. 2020 is giving me the opportunity to show my gratitude.
Gratitude is essential for my mental health.
Gratitude keeps me balanced and humble.
So, this year I’ll be posting more about gratitude when it comes to my mental health.
2019 gave me a relationship back with my sisters. It’s something we’ve been working on for some time. It’s been hard work for each of us, and we finally made it.
My two sisters and I are nine and ten years apart in age. For most of our lives I was put in, and continued a role in being more of a motherly-figure rather than their sister. As you can imagine, it’s hard to be someones sister when you’re so used to being their mom. It’s not that we didn’t have a mom. (WE LOVE YOU MOOMIE!) I believe this is just something that happens when siblings are so far apart in age. Recently those roles have changed. I am SO grateful.
I feel like I finally have a relationship with them. A REAL RELATIONSHIP. Our hardships are bringing us together. Our faults, our successes, our health, our hearts, our beliefs, everything. It’s all bringing us closer together.
And I’m proud of them. I’m so proud of who they are. Where they are. I have the most beautiful and inspiring sisters. It’s been fun talking crystals, science, sex, real life issues, etc.
I’ve always said, “if you split my personality in two- you have my sisters” (see above quote). It’s totally true.
Stephanie (Cake) is gentle in nature. She’s thoughtful, kind, and considerate of others’ feelings. ‘Smart’ doesn’t even scratch the surface with how brilliant she is (although she will try to tell you different- don’t believe her). She’s a rock star. She’s a true inspiration and way too cool. Think of someone you really look up to, and how in awe you would feel standing next to them. That’s how it feels to stand next to Stephanie for me. Like, holy cow, this is MY sister. She has a heart so pure and a voice that’s soft. Stephanie, being an air sign, reminds me to breathe and be present.
Abby (Pie) is ON FIRE. She is fire. She has no breaks. This can be dangerous for her, but it’s also what makes her so amazing. She fills any room she walks into with so much energy. She literally radiates it. Her fire used to put me off, which is due to the fact that she reminds me of part of myself: The part that doesn’t have breaks. But, this past year she’s reminded me that it’s totally okay not to have the breaks sometimes. Sometimes it’s necessary to take them out of the vehicle and ride full force. And hopefully there is no crashing…just easing off the gas.
I’m so glad that I’m no longer a mother-figure to them, because now I feel like we are on a whole new level in our sisterly relationship. It used to be that when they would do something that was deemed “naughty” I would go straight to telling our mom or dad. Now we finally have that…sister-respect. It’s pretty freakin’ cool. Excuse me while I geek out.
My two sisters really have inspired me to be the best version of myself. I was always so jealous of other women who had these strong relationships with their sisters. I’m so grateful to be able to finally have the same. It’s so nice to be able to talk to them about things that I wouldn’t talk to anyone else about. Even with our lengthy age difference.
Cheers to a new year and strong sisters. May we always support, love, and honor each other. Mostly, may we always be grateful for what we have. I love you two more than I can express. Thanks for sticking it out with me. Thank you for standing with me. I’ll always stand with you.